Dear Scary Guy,

I just thought I would let you know what an amazing job you are doing. I came across a youtube video when I was looking up something about bullying.

I have been bullying as long as I can remember and have been at some low parts of my life because of it, and a man tells you what….if I would have come across your video before I would have been a hell of a lot happier.

But I did overcome bullying and I want to dedicate my life to help others overcome this as well. As of right I am Miss Northeast Kansas and will be in the Miss Kansas Pageant in June.

Thanks to you I have come up with my new Platform. Helping Kid overcome bullying. I just wanted to let you know you are doing a great job and keep it up. :)

Meagan Johnson


“He does NOT use fear to end bullying he uses facts (found in newspapers for everyone to fear) and then he uses ROLEPLAY!!!!! He mirrors the behaviour back to the bullies hidden in the crowd before him, showing how ridiculous a way of spending your energy it is, he then parodies it and then spends MOST of the time explaining how victims can choose NOT to own the words and energy thrown at them, and the bullies have to really REALLY think about their behaviour and how it does nothing for them nor their victims –

And THEN he provides a curriculum with strategies that help to break down the ingrained ‘playground culture’ in institutions that perpetuates the bullying throughout and into the workplace, strategies that give the whole school (workplace) a chance to behave differently, just long enough to see that if everyone involved just sticks to the new way of being NO-ONE gets hurt.

Children respond to the true raw reality of what is going on, they are much more awake than are given credit for and they can understand The Scary Guy much more than many adults with their own limiting mindsets!

You have been given a grown-up’s uneducated version of something that does no harm and yet you are demonstrating PERFECTLY exactly the behaviour The Scary Guy changes – the mouthing off and prejudice about someone you haven’t gotten the full picture of yourself – passing on just the prejudice and misinformation of another.

The Scary Guy could help you not to be caught in the flow of someone else’s words and judgment. Be kind to yourself and treat others as you would be treated, would you want someone to put this much energy into publishing judgments about you when they haven’t met you nor seen your work in person? Live in Peace and be happy.


Thank you, Scary Guy,

. . . And WOW I watched your video and all the memories came flying back to me! I told my mum and dad you said hi and they said a massive hello back!
You are my hero Scary Guy and always will be and I guess I want to thank you for making me love who I am and what I do! Coz be4 you came and spoke to us in school I h8 who I was and wished I was someone else but now I think I’m glad I am the person who I am today coz this is how my mum and dad brought me up so this is who I want to be a good person for them and 4 me!

Well, Scary! I’ve got to say you are a credit to England and the nation and trust me Scary I will always follow your words and stick with u no matter what u are doing!

Well, Scary I think its bedtime I’m getting tired!
Cheers for taking the time to reply to my inbox and I hope to hear a lot more from you.

Sweet dreams night Scary Guy xxx




Dear Scary,

I’d just like to say thank you for visiting my school (Sir John Hunt Community Sports College).

I was bullied for four years, and it leads me attempting suicide, I also self-harmed too… Admittedly, I was quite violent back to the ‘bullies’, shouted horrible things at them etc.. But after you visited our school, it made me realize that all words are energy, and what comes out of your own mouth, is about you. Not the person you’re saying it to.

I can now look inside at who I am in all my words and actions, your programs helped a lot.

Thanks for visiting.

-Darryen Venning.


Dear Scary Guy,

I remember you came to my school in Corby, Northamptonshire, England. We’re talking years ago now.  I’ve been going through a tough time breaking up with my girlfriend and living life without my parents.

I remember the thing you did with the punch that turned into a hug; we were all doing that for weeks, months after!  All I can say is that I know I’m in a bad place now but when I pick myself up again I can get to work being the best person I can be and helping others see that person in themselves, too.

It’s all thanks to you.

If one person changes their mind that’s another person that can help change the mindsets of others and that’s something you’ve done to me.  Life is so much easier with love. It makes the mundane bearable and the ordinary more extraordinary.

Even something as simple as giving up your seat on the tube, to picking someone up who’s fallen over, or, giving a smile to someone in the street!  It might turn that person day around.

I remember I was at Victoria station in London on my way to work when a woman had fallen down the escalators. I pressed the emergency stop and ran up to help. Within seconds everyone in the area came to help out. For that split moment hate never existed, it felt like the man didn’t even acknowledge hate. I went to work late but for the entire day, never had so much faith in humanity.

I’m writing to let you know that you’ve changed the way I think and the way I feel towards others. It takes a brave person to do what you’re doing and I have limitless respect for you.

Your existence is proof that there is still goodness in the world.

For now, take care and keep in touch.

Will Kinnaird.


Hey Scary,

You probably can’t remember but you came to our youth club The Hive in Haverfordwest, Wales and we had the rock star Alison with the 28 cats!!

Just want to say once again a big thank you for everything you said that night it stuck in all our hearts and your words question what we do in our day-to-day lives also following this page shows me how many places you reach out to and I’m just wondering are you achieving what you set out to achieve??

You definitely did at the hive but what about elsewhere??

Once again Scary, thanks :D !!

From Shane Bear and all those at The Hive


Hi, Scary,

You visited my kid’s school in Ivybridge, Devon, England last year.

My kids thought you were great and they said your story really gave them something to think about. They sort of understand how people will prejudge as we’re a biker family and some people don’t like that.

Thanks for visiting their school you made my kids feel good about who they are and you taught them to always think about other peoples feelings too.

Thank you for your visit from a very grateful mum. x x 


Scary Guy,

I’m a big fan. You visited my Middle school in Ramstein so many years ago and inspired me to do my best and to treat people better. And so far I’m doing pretty good. I’m a Senior now and I’m about to graduate.

I was wondering if you were going to consider maybe taking some time to come back and talk at Ramstein and maybe even up at the high school. I’m sure everyone would think that’d be awesome.

I just really want to thank you for your words back then. And you were right, I still didn’t find “The perfect person”  but I found a kid that was close.

Thanks for all you do.

Northern Scot Feature

His body is a colorful collage of body art, his face peppered by piercings, his hair and beard colored blue and shaved randomly. The Scary Guy visited Lossiemouth High School to lead a workshop with pupils and staff, which aimed to eradicate prejudice and perceptions among those taking part.

However, this is one man who perhaps does not live up to his name.
Scary has been traveling the world for seven years, spreading his message to eliminate anger, hate, violence, and death by encouraging pupils not to judge people and to speak out against bullying. He spent a day at the school giving talks and demonstrations with 420 pupils, hoping it would help to stop intimidation in the classroom and playground.

“It is a four-stage process, ” said The Scary Guy. “First, we make them aware what prejudice and perception are. We then let them understand why it happens. “We then show how to turn it around into acceptance and love.” Some pupils were overwhelmed by his inspirational performance. He began his talk by walking into the room and saying nothing. In a split second, there was silence as the children caught their breath. First impressions, it seemed, form a large part of prejudice.
“The whole programme is geared to changing this earth. The problem is a worldwide problem and by teaching them love and not to judge others, we are changing the way they perceive others. This stops prejudice.

“I believe everybody has a bully in them. There is no such thing as bad kids, there is bad behaviour.”

The Scary Guy – his legal name and the one he has on his passport – visits schools all over the UK, many states in the US and other European countries. In big demand, he has a tough schedule but does not mind because he believes what he is doing will help change the world.

“Racism, sexism, ageism and religious issues all account for what’s happening in the world. We have to break those barriers down, and that is what I try a difference, that is why we focus on the children. But you can’t forget the teachers, ” he added. To put his ideas into practice, The Scary Guy then set a challenge.

“There is the seven days and seven nights challenge where you don’t say a negative thing about any person for that time period. We put all the people on what he had achieved.

“I think that he made a great impression on the pupils. This was probably evident at lunchtime when the pupils were going round smiling and hugging each other, ” he added. “Everybody apart from the fourth years took part and I think everybody enjoyed his performance. “It appears that a lot of the children who had been involved in incidents of bullying had thought a lot about what was said.”

Ms Gifford revealed that Lossie High was looking to do some follow-up work and she was delighted that so many staff took part in the after-school session. “Thirty-two members of staff stayed and took part in a workshop with him and it was excellent, ” she said. “I am really pleased and would encourage other schools to consider this option. It has really benefitted the staff and pupils of Lossiemouth High.” to do in the first hour with these kids, ” he said. After initially challenging their thinking, he held teacher-free workshops to continue the thought process. At the end, he conducted a workshop with teachers. “It is the adults of tomorrow that are going to make this at the workshop. “This is not a job. It is a mission. From the time I wake up to the moment I go to bed, I am always thinking about changing the mind set of the world.